5 Signs a Girl Wants You to Talk to Her

Good looks and confidence are important to have when you’re planning to ask a girl out, but even those can only go so far if she’s just not into you.

A woman who knows what she wants will not give you the time of day if she thinks you’re as dull as a brick, which is why getting her to find you interesting enough to have a conversation with is always the best first step. This is true for most women all over the world — regardless of what qualities they eventually look for in their Ideal Man.

Bottom line is this: you really need to get her to talk to you first.

So before you approach a girl and start putting the moves on her, you have to look for cues that show not just that she’s into you but that she’s willing to chat so you can get to know each other.

Signs She Wants You to Talk to Her

Sometimes, “she seems like a nice person” just isn’t gonna cut it, so you need to watch out for actual proof that the girl you’ve got your eyes on will welcome your presence and company.

These signs can range from subtle gestures that make you go, “Okay, I think she likes me,” to undeniable, verbal indications that she’s interested in speaking with you.

It can be tricky — and you might need to go out there and encounter a few hits and misses — but as soon as you become an expert in these useful signals, romance and dating will be a lot easier.

Sign # 1: She Looks at You

Eye contact is a tried-and-tested sign of attraction.

If her gaze keeps wandering your way, even if she’s trying not to look obvious about it, that can be one of the signs that a girl wants you to talk to her.

One glance might be passed off as sizing you up, another one can be her just checking you out casually, but multiple glances to the point of outright staring is a huge hint that you’ve definitely got her attention.

There’s a reason why they call it “catching someone’s eye,” after all, and why dressing the part is a great strategy to turn a lot of heads.

Now, she might be a little shy about it, so you’ll need a few glimpses to confirm, but if she’s maintaining the eye contact and holding your gaze even from across a room — despite the many other people and things she can be looking at — then that’s a signal right there that you’re cleared to go ahead and say hello.

Sign # 2: She Smiles at You

Facial expression is another thing to take into consideration when trying to figure out if someone is interested in talking.

It’s very hard for a lot of people to hide how they truly feel, and most of the time, their emotions show on their faces. A smirk usually means playful teasing, and a scowl with a glare is a clear warning to back off.

If she secretly wants you, chances are a girl won’t be able to stop smiling.

The face of someone who wants to strike up a conversation will definitely be a pleasant one, and an open smile is just about the best invitation there is.

When you’re already making small talk, smiling is also a good indication not only that she enjoys your company but that she also isn’t thinking of ending your talk anytime soon.

Sign # 3: She’s Moving Closer to You

One minute she’s all the way over there, the next she’s right beside you.

Don’t panic. Sometimes, the signs that she wants you to chase her can start as signs that she’s chasing you.

A girl who clearly wants to talk to you will likely position herself in a way that makes you accessible to each other. In a crowded room, she might choose the seat next to you. At work, she can maneuver herself into a scenario that puts you both in close proximity.

If someone wants nothing to do with you, they’ll definitely try to steer clear of you. This is why a girl trying to get away and avoid all situations that will leave you two alone together is probably someone who won’t react positively to any romantic advances.

But if she’s the one taking the initiative to be near you, that’s as good a sign as any that she wants you to make a move.

Sign # 4: She Gives You Her Full Attention

If her attention never wavers, from the time your eyes meet to your third or fourth topic of conversation, that’s when you know a girl really wants you to talk — and keep talking — to her.

A captive audience is a great way to determine if you’re making a good impression, and there are plenty of hints to help you know if you’re on the right track.

Body language alone can give you multiple clues: she’s angled in a way that she’s always facing you or turned toward you while you talk; she nods at multiple points in your statements; she touches your arms or shoulders while she laughs in response.

You’ll also know she’s engaged in the conversation if she participates wholeheartedly. A girl who likes talking to you will ask questions, and she will be obvious in her interest to prolong the conversation and know more about you.

Girls may not be as notorious for short attention spans as guys are, but they’re certainly particular with how they want to use their time. If she’s spending a lot on exchanging jokes and cute anecdotes with you, that can only mean talking to you is exactly what she wants to be doing.

Sign # 5: She’s the First to Say ‘Hi'

Initiating contact is probably one of the most obvious signs a girl wants you to talk to her.

If she’s hot and seems way out of your league, it can be a little hard to believe that a woman like that is really into you. You might even convince yourself you’re just imagining things.

But if she’s the first to text or send a greeting message, or if she is always the one to wave and say hello, you have nothing to worry about: she knows exactly what she wants, and that’s for the two of you to start talking.

Approaching someone you’re interested in takes a lot of guts, as evidenced by the need to memorize all these signs to figure out if there’s a chance that interest will be returned. A girl doing it is a little less common and a real proof that she really wants to be connected.

If she’s the first to say hi and is clearly dropping hooks to keep the conversation going, that’s a great encouragement and practically a huge neon sign that you’re someone she wants to get to know — for friendship and maybe more.