The Ultimate Guide to Knowing When to Ask a Girl Out

When is the right time to ask a woman out? What are the signs I should look for? Should I be asking them out in the first place? What if they’re not interested in me?

Men face a lot of dilemmas in the dating world. Some may be too shy; some find that women can be complex puzzles.

Many of them struggle with just figuring out the right time to ask women out.

Unfortunately, this can lead to some men giving up on pursuing the women they like.

Signs you should ask her out

If you are one of the men worrying about these issues, don’t worry. I got you.

When deciding when to ask a girl out, you should first consider whether she is interested in you.

Here are some signs that you’ve captured her interest, and you should at least give asking her out a shot.

She wants to be around you

If she is interested in you, she will make time for you. Yes, you need to be practical and consider that she won’t always be available.

But when she does have the time, she will agree to join you and give you her undivided attention while you’re together.

It may not be as easy as “If she wanted to, she would,” but it would be as clear as, “If she could, she would.”

She will even initiate making plans with you because she knows that she will have a great time around you.

She maintains eye contact

Does she maintain eye contact for the most part? Are her eyes clear and focused and does she seem completely engaged in your conversation?

Her body language says a lot about her intentions. And one of the ways in which you can gauge her interest in you is through her eye contact.

As they say, the eyes are the windows to the soul. If she’s maintaining eye contact with you and seems relaxed and comfortable, then these are good signs that she’s feeling the chemistry you have together.

She compliments you

One of the signs a woman is interested in you and wants you to ask her out is when she notices your appearance or the things you do and compliments you on them.

She can compliment anything about you that she finds pleasing. If she compliments you on your sense of style or fashion, it’s a sign that she values your manner of self-expression. If it’s your intelligence and sense of humor, then she values the way your mind works.

Do you think that a woman’s compliments aren’t necessarily a sign of romantic interest? Then you’re a thoughtful man.

Pay attention to how she delivers her compliments. She may smile and give you a lingering gaze. She may be a bit bolder and touch your arm or shoulder while she compliments you. It will usually be a gentle and deliberate touch, and not the friendly and playful nudge to the shoulder that some of your women friends may go for.

These are good indications that she’s open to building a connection with you.

She’s open and honest with you

Not everyone is comfortable opening up. So if a girl tells you about her personal life and other things that only you know about, chances are it’s because she’s learned to trust you. She sees you as a valuable person in her life.

Okay, let’s not gloss over the fact that she can open up to her best friends, her siblings, or her therapist, if she has one. So pay attention to a few more details.

Opening up doesn’t necessarily mean talking about deep, dark secrets. It can sometimes be about hopes and what makes one happy–and if she opens up to you about what makes her happy romantically, it’s time to take note.

For instance, she tells you, “I love roses, and I think it’s romantic if a guy would just give me a rose for no special reason. Just because he was inspired to do so while thinking of me.”

It takes a certain level of comfort and trust to share personal details and thoughts with someone. So if she’s opening up to you, don’t blow this chance and listen to her. The more she trusts you, the more likely she’ll share deeply personal things.

Always remember to respect her boundaries and not take advantage of her vulnerability. By doing so, you can build a stronger and more meaningful connection with her.

She buys you gifts

Not all women do this, but some women show their interest in a guy by buying him gifts.

They want to show their affection in a tangible way, so they’ll give you things that you might appreciate.

For instance, if she buys you a book on a topic you’ve mentioned you’re interested in, it means that she’s been paying attention to what you like.

If she does this for you, make sure to show your appreciation for this gesture.

Look for the right moment

If she’s shown most of these behaviors, then she’s clearly interested in you. And now, you’re ready to take the next step — finding the best time to ask her out.

Choosing the right moment can make all the difference between a successful date and a missed opportunity. So consider not just your own feelings, but also the context in which you’re asking her out.

Here are some examples of good and bad times to ask a girl out.

Good time to ask her out

There are plenty of right moments, because the right moment can be found in any ordinary day.

It could be as the two of you are both waiting for the bus together. It could be during a temporary lull in the workday (if you work together) and you have time to talk.

But the right moment is only one piece of the puzzle. You also have to choose the right location and gauge her mood. It’s best to ask her out somewhere she feels safe and comfortable, and when it’s just the two of you.

If she’s had a good day at work or had just finished a fun activity, she’ll be much more likely to say yes.

Bad time to ask her out

Figuring out when it’s a bad time to ask a girl out is actually easy. Mostly, there’s one time to avoid: when she’s not okay.

Don’t ask her out when she’s obviously busy and in a rush. Even if she likes you already, she’ll be forced to brush you off.

Don’t ask her out when you know she’s just broken up with a boyfriend. Even if she says yes, her emotions are raw, and you’ll likely become a rebound guy.

And then there are times that are technically okay, but asking her out would still be a bad move. For instance, never ask, “Will you go on a date with me?” if she’s with her friends or family.

It is likely that she will feel uncomfortable in front of others, so be respectful of her boundaries and wait for a more private moment.

And if you’re thinking, “Should I ask a girl out over text?” Don’t even bother, at least, not unless texting is your primary way of communicating with each other.

Otherwise, this shows that you’re not putting in the effort to at least show up and ask her personally.

You’ll just be making it easy for her to reject you.

Maintain your confidence

Of course, your plan of asking her out won’t be successful if you’re not confident about putting it in motion. But if you’re overconfident, you’re still just one step away from ruining everything.

Confidence is a delicate balance. So carry yourself well, speak nicely, and interact with her in a natural way.

If you’re ready to ask her out, don’t come off as too pushy and aggressive. Otherwise, you will lose your chance even before she says yes.